户外安全、领导力与责任反思

深入思考与回应 / Uncovering the Unanswered Questions

有两个问题一直萦绕在我的脑海，直到今天，答案才终于清晰明确： Two questions have been lingering in my mind, and today the answers have finally become clear:

1. 第一个问题 / First Question：
为什么 Li Wan 的妻子会选择离开他？他们共同育有两个女儿，且均由母亲抚养长大。两人分居已超过二十年。究竟是谁更加倔强、更加缺乏理智？ Why did Li Wan's wife leave him? They had two daughters together, both raised entirely by their mother, and have been separated for over twenty years. Between them, who was truly the more stubborn and unreasonable party?

2. 第二个问题 / Second Question：
理事会成员 Yolanda 曾提出疑问：Arabella 作为赞助商之一，赞助金额并不算多，为什么 Li Wan、Paul Tan 以及其他男性理事会成员会如此偏袒与“宠爱”她？ A question raised by board member Yolanda: Arabella, as one of the sponsors, did not contribute substantial donations. Why did Li Wan, Paul Tan, and other male board members dote on and favor her so excessively?

心理因素与管理失职 / Psychological Dynamics & Leadership Breakdown

Li Wan 表现出明显的拿破仑情结（矮子多作怪，自卑与补偿心理）。巧合的是，Paul Tan 身材也十分矮小。这究竟是单纯的巧合，还是深层的心理映射，值得深思。 Li Wan exhibits clear traits of a Napoleon Complex (overcompensation due to insecurity). Coincidentally, Paul Tan is also very short in stature. Whether this is mere coincidence remains a fair question.

关于心理补偿与组织管理的观察 / Observation on psychological overcompensation and leadership dynamics

在2026年6月初（6月14日之前）的一次电话沟通中，Li Wan 明确表示是他邀请朋友 Jerry Cui 为协会带队领队。他代表理事会使用“我们”一词，确认他们批准了“你选山，我带队”项目（即会员在惠斯勒、温哥华或霍普地区的十座山峰中选择一座，由 Jerry 领队）。 Over a phone call in early June 2026 (prior to June 14, 2026), Li Wan explicitly stated that he invited his friend Jerry Cui to lead hiking activities for the association. Using the word "we" on behalf of the board, he confirmed that they approved the program "你选山，我带队" (where members select one of ten peaks for Jerry to lead).

Li Wan 承认，由于他极度信任 Jerry Cui 的能力，他和理事会完全绕过了强制性的“双理事审批程序”。讽刺的是，这双人审核流程正是瑞士奶酪模型（Swiss Cheese Model）中的关键安全防线——而这恰恰是 Li Wan 曾公开向所有领队倡导的安全规程。 Li Wan admitted that because he trusted Jerry Cui's capabilities so deeply, he and the board completely bypassed the mandatory two-director approval process. Ironically, this two-person verification process represents a critical layer of the Swiss Cheese Model—the very safety protocol that Li Wan publicly advocated to all event leaders.

通过做出这一承认，Li Wan 证明了自己参与其中，并清楚表明他在绕过安全监管方面扮演了关键决策者的角色。如果他没有责任，他会指向其他理事，而不是使用“我们”。 By making this admission, Li Wan implicated himself and clearly implied his role as a key decision-maker in bypassing safety controls. If he were not responsible, he would have pointed to other board members rather than using "we."

然而，在2026年8月12日，在我与理事会成员 Li Wan、Timothy Chen、Roy Cao 和 Yolanda Zhang 就我针对 Paul Tan 会长的正式投诉举行的录音 Zoom 会议上，Li Wan 竟声称自己记不起说过这些话。 Yet, on August 12, 2026, during a recorded Zoom meeting between myself and board members Li Wan, Timothy Chen, Roy Cao, and Yolanda Zhang regarding my formal complaint against President Paul Tan, Li Wan claimed he could not recall ever making these statements.

相关文件 / Referenced Document:
📄 查看正式投诉信 PDF（要求免除 Paul Tan 职务） / View Formal Complaint PDF (Requesting Removal of Paul Tan)

试图毁尸灭迹 / Attempts to Erase Evidence

为了掩盖事实，Paul Tan 甚至删除了活动申请 Google 文档和报名 Google 表单。这种试图毁尸灭迹的行为，恰恰暴露出他内心的愧疚与胆怯，不敢面对真相与责任。 In a clear admission of guilt, Paul Tan went so far as to delete both the Hiking Event Application Google Doc and the Event Registration Google Form. This blatant act of attempting to erase evidence demonstrates a complete lack of accountability and cowardice when forced to face the facts.

企图毁尸灭迹：已被清空的活动申请与报名目录 / Evidence of deleted directory: The empty event application folder after records were removed

安全规程的破裂与醒悟 / Safety Breaches & The Realization

2026年6月14日，在顺利完成经 Helm Creek 徒步全景脊（Conquering Panorama Ridge via Helm Creek）的活动后，我驾车将慧心（Huixin）和 Lily 送至 29th Avenue 车站，随后带着 Yuki 前往 Burnaby Lake 橄榄球俱乐部（她的侄子将在那里接她）。在返程途中，我询问了她对 Rock 不幸罹难事件的看法（北岸新闻报道 / North Shore News Report）。Yuki 指出 Li Wan 行为鲁莽，经常违反基本户外安全规程，并在缺乏有效监督的情况下将其个人熟人引入组织。这印证了 Li Wan 此前向我炫耀的内容——他曾亲自为他的朋友支付会员费。 On June 14, 2026, after successfully completing the hiking event Conquering Panorama Ridge via Helm Creek, I dropped off Huixin and Lily at 29th Avenue Station and drove Yuki toward the Burnaby Lake Rugby Club, where she was scheduled to be picked up by her nephew. En route, I asked for her thoughts regarding the tragic passing of Rock. Yuki remarked that Li Wan acted recklessly, routinely violating basic outdoor safety protocols and bringing his personal acquaintances into the organization without proper oversight. This corroborated what Li Wan had previously boasted to me—that he personally paid membership fees for his friends.

看到 Li Wan 妻子近期的照片，可以看到她脸上刻满了深深的怨恨与痛苦——这正是 Li Wan 的坏脾气和对他妻子的刻薄所造成的。他对待妻子十分刻薄，而两个女儿完全跟随母亲生活，也更凸显出 Li Wan 根本没有将心思与关爱放在家庭上，而是把精力投向了 Arabella。 Seeing a recent photograph of Li Wan's wife revealed the deep resentment and pain etched on her face - it is caused by Li Wan's bad temper and meanness toward her, He was mean to his wife, and the fact that both daughters live entirely with their mother emphasizes how Li Wan directed his energy and affection elsewhere—toward Arabella.

最初两个问题的答案现在已沉痛地昭然若揭： The answers to both initial questions are now painfully clear:

• 问题 1 答案 / Question 1 Answer: Li Wan 的倔驴脾气和极度缺乏同理心，对妻子刻薄冷酷，最终导致婚姻破裂。 Li Wan's stubborn temper, meanness toward his wife, and total lack of empathy destroyed his personal relationship.
• 问题 2 答案 / Question 2 Answer: 与妻子分居超过二十年后，他将协会当成了自己的私地。他将个人情感与精力完全倾注在 Arabella 身上，抛弃了基础安全规程，与 Paul Tan 一起鲁莽运营。 Having been separated for over twenty years, he treated the association as his private sphere of influence. He channeled his personal affection and energy toward Arabella, setting aside foundational safety protocols and running operations recklessly along with Paul Tan.